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Not a good day
Some days are better than others. Today wasn’t one of the good ones. I found out that my father has cancer in his lung. I don’t know what kind of cancer it is - he goes into hospital for tests on the 23rd. And to be honest, I don’t really know how I feel. In part because I don’t have all the details. Mum wasn’t going to tell me until they knew for sure, except my sister (quite rightly) said she’d want to know if she was me. I spoke to Dad too, but he was a bit short on details.
I have a headache.
UPDATE 17/12/08: I feel I should add a postscript to this post as it’s pretty dire and in the end it wasn’t cancer! It’s quite a drawn-out story but that’s the good news. The process did uncover other issues that have since overshadowed this post somewhat. It will no doubt become a much bigger issue with time and when it does I’m sure various details will appear here. What is it they say about life not being meant to be easy?
July 11th, 2008 at 10:45 pm
oh dear. I have some idea how you feel. I went through this early last year with my dad and colon cancer. For some reason I knew the call was coming before it came (don’t ask, I don’t know, I just have that kind of instinct).
The upshot - some 15 months later and every scan, ‘oscopy, etc. has come through clear. He has healed although I suspect that mortality has played heavily on his mind…
There’s little I can say to reassure you unfortunately. Just roll with the punches and know that in this day and age treatments, surgery, heck even the diagnosis is so much better through technology that he will be looked after well.
Unfortunately we are now at an age that we see things we never anticipated to see, most notably the fragility of our own parents.
My thoughts are with you and your family. It’s shitful for sure, but you’ll find a few smiles along the way.
Feel free to ctc me if you want to chat…
xx
July 15th, 2008 at 5:25 pm
I’m thinking of you and your family George.